Judgements


We tend to be involved a lot in other people’s business than our own. You must have heard the phase ‘being judgemental’. So, is ‘being judgemental’ good or bad? Isn’t it crucial to be judgemental while interviewing a candidate for a job, or choosing your friends or relations? Everyone makes judgements all the times then why, only certain people are accused of being judgemental. Is it a crucial skill or an unconscious bad habit? The answer lies in the fine difference between making judgements and being judgemental. Making judgements comes from a balanced and neutral mind but on the other hand being judgemental comes from an imbalanced and reactive mind.

Although, judging people and things is a very natural human behaviour but the problem comes when we look at people and things through our black and white filter of beliefs without knowing the whole truth. When we have an opinion of someone’s behaviour with no basis for making that assessment other than prejudiced conception then we are being judgemental. In other words, if you have an idea due to wrong judgements which are pessimistic, shallow and ultimately targeted to make the other person feel inferior then you are labelled as ‘judgemental’.

Personality judgements is crucial as it can determine the type of people we make friends with, who we trust, who we date, who we will work with and who we will employ. Therefore being critical helps to analyse situations and people for our good. It is a much required skill which is not learnt in school. Most of the time our behaviour is driven by emotional, spontaneous and unconscious motives but we are capable of reacting rational when we overcome this behaviour. Making bad decisions which we regret later can be drawn to this as well. To avoid making wrong decisions and be good at personality judgements we must practice some simple rules. 

  • Don’t jump to conclusions. Look deeper into people and situations
  • Ask yourself if you are seeing the whole picture
  • Keep an open mind
  • Stop stereotyping
  • Develop an empathy dynamic

Making judgments is one of the important life skills, which might take some time to develop. After all, a judgemental nature isn’t all bad; all we need to do is balance the judge in you to make the right unbiased judgements.


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